Our parents condition us to be a certain way and it’s less that we take after their bad habits, but more that we develop survival techniques to them that can be very dysfunctional and unhealthy and that a lot of the time is the problem. Our personality defects often stem from poor or dysfunctional survival techniques we’ve developed in response to our parents. Do I sound like a self help book yet? But I think it's true. I and many of my friends are at the point where we're becoming our own people and the faults I observe in my friends are rarely those of their parents, because they see what they hate in their parents and work to be different, but their response to the faults of their parents that become their own problems to overcome and the problems their children will work to change in themselves. It's a small scale example of generational leadership.
7/16/11
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